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Grief & Healing<\/h2>[vc_column_text css=””]\"\"Helping you cope with loss<\/strong><\/p>\n

For those who have lost a loved one or are trying to help someone cope with a personal loss, sometimes a good book can help a great deal. While a book about grief or bereavement can\u2019t heal the heart in the time it takes to read, it can help to shed some light on the range of emotions that grief can bring long after the funeral.<\/p>\n

Even short passages which make the reader think, \u201cYes, I feel that way,\u201d or \u201cThat makes sense,\u201d can help a person dealing with grief to feel a little better. Knowing the stages of grief and being able to identify that what they are experiencing is a \u201cnormal\u201d process can provide a measure of comfort to a person struggling with the heartache that a loss can bring.<\/p>\n

Overcoming Grief: You can\u2019t go over, under, or around it, you must go through it! Our earliest socialization tells us: Don\u2019t Feel Bad, Be Strong, Don\u2019t Burden Others With Your Feelings. Using just those few incorrect ideas, we develop a default position that suggests we shouldn\u2019t feel bad in the first place.<\/p>\n

If we\u2019re taught not to feel bad\u2014when feeling bad is the normal and natural reaction to a grief-producing event\u2014it makes it almost impossible for us to access healthy guidance to go through grief, rather than trying to bypass it by going over, under, or around it.<\/p>\n

The first thing we must do if we want to deal with our grief effectively, is to allow our grief to exist by acknowledging it, and by communicating openly about it to people with whom we feel safe.<\/p>\n

Overcoming Grief And Then Dealing With Unresolved Grief<\/strong><\/p>\n

Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. The range of reactions and emotions in response to grief-producing events is as wide as there are people on the planet. It is said that \u201cEveryone grieves in their own way and at their own pace.\u201d We agree.<\/p>\n

But experiencing grief, even in our own way and at our own pace, is not the only issue. For example, when someone important to us dies, we are always left with some things we wish had been different, better<\/i>, or more;<\/i> and with some unrealized hopes, dreams, <\/i>and expectations<\/i> about the future.<\/p>\n

Those six words:<\/p>\n

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  • different <\/i><\/li>\n
  • better <\/i><\/li>\n
  • more <\/i><\/li>\n
  • hopes <\/i><\/li>\n
  • dreams <\/i><\/li>\n
  • expectations<\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

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    These are the keywords that can help us discover what was left emotionally incomplete for us as the result of a death, a divorce, or any other loss. We call those unfinished or incomplete things Unresolved Grief.<\/p>\n